Families. You gotta love ‘em. With the holidays approaching, you’re probably about to get your fair share of family time. But getting your whole family together under one roof can be a recipe for drama.
All families are dysfunctional in some ways. You can’t choose your family like you choose your friends. Little quirks that you may overlook among friends can feel much bigger and more irritating when you’re with family. Different worldviews, competition and annoying habits can put family members at odds.
We all have at least one relative who annoys us, whether it’s your aunt making insulting comments, or your sister trying to outshine you at every chance. With years of history together, some of us also have old wounds that haven’t healed.
Also, do you ever notice that when you’re with your family, you revert back to childhood dynamics? You’re a grown adult now, but somehow you’ve assumed the role you had as a child. And it isn’t pretty.
All of these factors, combined with the pressures of trying to have a joyful holiday together, can stir up quite a bit drama.
It may be tempting to skip the holidays this year and stay home. Some do. But if you decide to take part, here are strategies to deal with family drama and still have a decent holiday:
Although you may be dreading a houseful of relatives this holiday, you can handle it! Focus on the good things and find reasons to be grateful. Are you happy that you don’t have to cook this year? At least you have a family to spend the holidays with — some don’t.
All families are challenging. There’s no way around it. But we love them anyway.
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