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Men don’t cry—showing emotion is weak.
Men must stay tough, physically and emotionally.
Sound familiar? The male stereotype in our culture certainly leans toward the strong, silent type.
But is it healthy? Historically, boys have been called out for behavior that doesn’t match society’s definition of manhood.
But is it causing toxic masculine traits to take hold? And how do we reverse the trend?
The meaning and depth of masculinity differs between cultures and time periods. To better understand what healthy masculinity is, it’s helpful to understand how masculinity becomes toxic.
What is healthy masculinity and why is it important?
In Episode 58, Dr. G and his guest, Todd Fink, CADC, discuss masculine traits and how to encourage men to be their true selves.
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Myths vs. Facts
“Unhealthy or toxic masculinity may not allow males to fully express themselves and their emotional needs because people may view it as a sign of weakness or vulnerability.” - Fact
We shame each other when we make somebody believe they are inferior. When we shame a boy for acting in a way that doesn’t match society’s definition of masculinity, he doesn’t feel safe to be himself.
“Men must be big, brave and strong.” - Myth
Masculinity doesn’t look or feel a certain way.
“Healthy masculinity means being honest with oneself about your own feelings, needs and desires.” - Fact
Men need to have a healthy, balanced sense of masculinity. It’s healthy when men feel they have a wide range of acceptable expression.
“Men are emotional even if they are not in touch with their emotions.” - Fact
We are all programmed with biological drives, including emotion. It doesn’t matter how stoic you are, you’re going to feel emotion.
“Boys of all races and ethnic backgrounds who don’t act “masculine enough” may be subjected to harassment at school.” - Fact
You can hardly find a race, culture or time where there wasn’t shaming of men. School can be a toxic environment for kids who don’t fit the normative patterns and are rejected because of it.
Listener healthy OH-YEAH!
““My grandchildren are grown so I have them for dinner and we talk.” – B.B.
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